Sometimes

Sometimes I am zen

Sometimes I am angry

Sometimes I am funny

Sometimes I am unfriendly

Sometimes I want to be alone

Sometimes I want to be close to everyone

I’ve been hearing these frases countless times: “You meditate so much and you are snappy now” or “You are very demanding compared to a zen person.” or worse “You are so quiet. You don’t seem to work very hard.” “I’m surprised to see you dancing all night”.

How many expectations do people demand of us, right? How many times in your life have people tried to put you in “little boxes” or in small groups? As if we weren’t such complex human beings and therefore so different from each other, even if we have some similarities.

I’ve been watching in social medias an extreme demand for a standard beauty which doesn’t match with the real life. And everybody wants to have this such beauty.

I recently read about a serious problem with young people who hide their face with mask or don’t leave their house, because they think they are not of this standard beauty. It’s so sad.

I don’t like my wrinkles, my spots, a little fat too. I’ve been taking care of myself as much as I can. Self-care is a healthy habit and improves our self-esteem, but I have no intention of being who I am not. Because who I really am is inside me not outside.

I always remember my mother’s quote: “There’s always an old shoe for a sick foot.” There will always be someone who sees our soul more than our body. There is nothing more comfortable than being with someone who loves, accepts and welcomes our imperfections and qualities. After all, we are human not puppets.

We are not cool neither attractive all the time, because nobody is perfect.

We are here on this long and difficult journey, but if we can take things, practices and people with us, to help us to achieve our goals, it will be much easier, lighter and more fun.

Be you, be authentic, because you are already beautiful by nature.

Reviewed by Matthew Dove